what to do?

[purevi1]

a great man once told me

women are dream killers

trust me I get my dreams trampled everyday. You live you learn and you move on.

And being a man whore is so much more fun when you actually get over her, but I hate to be the bearer of bad news that will take a long time.

 

[spanky]

No shit! Man it really sounds like she was just looking for a reason. You need stay the hell away from her, she's said what she has to say and you're not going to change that with a bunch of ass kissing. Sounds like she's trying to convince herself that leaving you is justified. She just couldn't say that she was done without blaming you. As Shaq said, take it on the chin and start chasing tail!

 

[Toyoda]

Bro I dated my ex wife for 3 yrs married for 4yrs, shit just didnt work out
now she is leaving with an ex sex offender / felon.... I dont know what 2 tell you man. If you can look in the mirror everyday & be happy with the person you see your 75% above most people in my book. Who knows maybe she will snap out of it.

 

[fighteveryone]

and the other thing that sucks was my whole summer was revolving around driving to NC for vacation. now its either i go by myself, get a dude to go with me (which will be kinda gay), or try to talk to an ex-girlfriend who'd be willing to give herself for a week of intercourse.

my whole fucking cutting cycle was revolving around this too! wtf?

 

[Grizzly]

Get a dude to go and find some new tail. New tail is always better than old tail. Although, ex-sex is pretty good most of the time.

I agree with the others. She was just looking for a reason to leave.

Dude, you're, what?, like 24? You've barely even experienced the world of bitches. I know you say you've gotten it bad from so hizzies in the past, but, really, the 3 years of dating you might have had before meeting your last missus couldn't have been that intense. People in HS don't really "date around".

You'll find another one that's even better than this one.

 

[shaqdeezl]

Get a dude to go and find some new tail. New tail is always better than old tail. Although, ex-sex is pretty good most of the time.

I agree with the others. She was just looking for a reason to leave.

Dude, you're, what?, like 24? You've barely even experienced the world of bitches. I know you say you've gotten it bad from so hizzies in the past, but, really, the 3 years of dating you might have had before meeting your last missus couldn't have been that intense. People in HS don't really "date around".

You'll find another one that's even better than this one.

Word. Now is the time to do it to it.

 

[juiced2damax]

Shit bro, I'm heading down to NC very soon to check out places to move to, got a few locations in mind...LMK and we'll hit it up!

 

[swede74]

No shit! Man it really sounds like she was just looking for a reason. You need stay the hell away from her, she's said what she has to say and you're not going to change that with a bunch of ass kissing. Sounds like she's trying to convince herself that leaving you is justified. She just couldn't say that she was done without blaming you. As Shaq said, take it on the chin and start chasing tail!

Well fucking said! sure, you may have contributed a little, but she's going through her own shit right now and is blaming you for everything under the sun.

So when are you hitting up NC? I'm heading down in the later part of the summer with the girlie for her brother's wedding...I know absolutely no one. I'll be there for about ten days. If the times coinside (sp) I'd love to get away for a while from her family. We'll hook up with some bitches, hit some clubs/pubs, get your mind off of her.

Hang in there...we have all been in your shoes. It will get better.

 

[fighteveryone]

yo Swede and J2DM... we should all meet up down there and spend a few nights treating women like total garbage.

 

[swede74]

yo Swede and J2DM... we should all meet up down there and spend a few nights treating women like total garbage.

you had me at "yo"

 

[-MU-]

GREAT QUOTE....lol

yo Swede and J2DM... we should all meet up down there and spend a few nights treating women like total garbage.

 

[-MU-]

I have been the one at fault before....I blew a 6 year relationship down the drain....and quess what.....Her and I have came full circle. We started of as friends and now we are friends again.{5 years after splitting up}

I grew up with this woman and we will love each other for the rest of our lives, but sometimes shit is not meant to work in that way.

She is someone I can trust 100% and will always have my back and I would crush anyone for her.....When we spilt I felt like I was dying and was sure that I could never fond another woman who was as important....It was damn hard to do but I did it.

Time really does make a difference in the way you look at shit....Just give it some time and dont sit around feeling sorry for yourself.

ok this is what happenned...

called her to tell her im sorry and that i was in the wrong on how i reacted. she said that she was very hurt. especially coming from someone who knows her best like myself... to tell her basically that she doesnt care/is incapable of caring about things (like the birds) really hurt her. this stemmed back from comments ive made in the past regarding other things too. i had made her feel like an uncaring, worthless person. and this isnt the first time... and she doesnt trust me enough anymore for it to be the last time. she said she doesnt consider a person who makes her feel this way to be a friend she wants to be around.

i told her exaclty how i felt. how i wanted to have things to be how they were 3-4 years ago when we first dated and were happy and content and confident. she told me flat out that there is no chance of that ever happenning. basically she just does not believe that i won't put her down like i did again if something comes up. i told her i'd learn from this mistake. she told me to remember that with my next girlfriend. ouch.

it just sucks a lot. 4 years down the drain. you guys can tell me a million times that i'm young and whatnot. but the time and effort i put into this relationship was more than i could ever imagine putting into anything else, past-present-future. from things ive posted here in the past its obvious i think the world of this girl.

i've had nothing but a string of dissapointments with relationships in the past. this is the first relationship ive ever had where i was the one at fault.

 

[juiced2damax]

yo Swede and J2DM... we should all meet up down there and spend a few nights treating women like total garbage.

LMAO...My schedule is WIIIIIIDE open...lmk and I'm game, seriously!

 

[fighteveryone]

LMAO...My schedule is WIIIIIIDE open...lmk and I'm game, seriously!

planning on going 18-23 of July to the Wilmington area. i'm considering to stop at Ocean City, MD too.

 

[d-red]

planning on going 18-23 of July to the Wilmington area. i'm considering to stop at Ocean City, MD too.

the most fucked up i`ve ever gotten was in ocean city

 

[Finisher]

FE1

Hey bud, this is what we do until we meet the one we're supposed to be with for the long haul. Seriously.... If you're always with the wrong one, you'll never get with the right one. You're in transition and taking step closer to the one you're supposed to be with...... I didn't marry until I was 32. Lots of steps. Sucks at times but better to be happy and alone than in something that ain't right. Sounds like it ain't been right for some time.......

People split apart and grow up taking different paths. Sounds about right my friend.

Hang in there!

 

[Finisher]

the most fucked up i`ve ever gotten was in ocean city

Mardi Gras 2001. Over dose and slept for 36 hours straight........ Acutally have a pic of me sitting on the side of my bed looking like death! It's an awesome pic!

 

[thick]

great post and very sorry to hear this Fe. I knew it was a possibility but didnt know it had gotten to this stage

One thing I havve learned is to never let my emotions take over my actions. What I mean by that is to THINK before SPEAKING. Do not speak out of anger, I know its sounds like a bunch of mumbo jumbo but based on your comeback to her about the whole wasted 4 yrs comment, you spoke out of anger instead of taking a deep breath, thinking, and saying something along the lines of what VC said to say. Maybe that is what has turned you "bitter". When I learned how to control that side of me, WOW, It felt great to not say things that I will regret and rationally get my point across and it also calms the other person down as well. I could be off the mark but that's my advice as to the side of you she may want to see, the more sensitive and caring side.

At least the lines of communication are still open, capitalize on that and start all over again, roses, cards, candy, letters, little gifts, and be spuratic. You'll be numero uno again,, it's just going to take a little persuasion on your end.