Dads, are your kids pussies because they have manners?

[spanky]

Dads, are your kids pussies because they have manners?

My boy came home last week with a big scratch on his hand. I asked how it happened and he said Jesse wanted a toy so he grabbed my boy's hand and scratched the shit out of it. This week he came home with a scratch very close to his eye and then last night he tells me Jesse punched him in the stomach.

The teachers aren't supposed to tell the parents which kids are responsible but told me. They said they've been "working on Jesse." I'm ready to slap this little shit because his parents are obviously not doing it. I told the director in a joking kinda way that this is going to be a huge problem for Jesse's dad if he doesn't take care of his son.

I think i'm mostly pissed because i'm probably a little too hard on my boy at times for things like hitting other kids or taking stuff that isn't his. Of course the parents (friends of ours) saying i'm too hard have kids that run the show and are major pains in the ass. Just feels like he's getting taken advantage of for being somewhat civilized. I don't want that to be a weakness but it's looking that way. Last night we went over the kick in the balls move.

We'll see what I have in store this afternoon. Little fucker!

 

[Preacher]

Spanky I use to be the same way about hitting, now I tell my kid fuck it If someone hits you first you make sure you finish that shit....... I was having the same problem man. It sucks to have your kids well mannered and respectful of others when there are parents out that that don't give a shit. Or don't believe in disipline. I'm not talking about fucking timeouts or no TV for an hour bullshit either... Start hitting your fucking kids people..... There yours!

 

[Vicious Cycle]

Spanky, you are doing the right thing! Allowing your son to sink to the level of others doesn't make him a better person. It happens to my daughter ALL the time! It's a little hurtful to me and her right now, but at her age you can't get them to understand the difference between when to walk away and when to fight. As your boy gets older, you will have instilled a sense of right in him that will not be easily shaken; but he will then have the judgment skills necessary to truly know what is worth fighting over and what is not.

My kid is involved in a wide variety of activities that helps keep her self esteem up and keeps her around the 'right crowd'.

Might I suggest that in addition to any activities you may have your son involved in now, you also take him to some sort of fighting/judo class. I would personally say more judo/wrestling. The younger the better. Trust me, there will come a time where you will get a phone call from the middle school saying your son hip tossed some kid to the ground and knocked the wind out of him. You quiz him and the answer he gives you for doing it will make you proud.

Best
-VC-

 

[Eleven11]

No man, your doing things right. we used to hear this same stuff with our daughter. People thought we made her play sports, I introduced her to it and she made the decision, but the main thing is we kept her busy and involved. She didn't have time to get into trouble.
I told her to always be nice to other kids even the assholes because you dont know what there life is like at home, but NEVER let them put there hands on you. A woman that worked at the school with my wife thought we were to strict with her also was divorced and had a daughter that was pregnant and dropped out of high school. now she's heavily involved in drugs.
When he's older and people are telling you what a fine young man he is you'll know you did right.....................11

 

[spanky]

You know, it probably bothers me more than it does him. I'm looking forward to wrestling, it's a couple years away though. Right now he's in baseball and gymnastics, spring will be baseball and soccor. He's been a natural at baseball but a little clumsy when it comes to gymnastics. I was totally against the gymnastics thing but it's helped him a ton since he's tall for his age. I just want to keep him busy, but having fun. I know my old man could took alot of the fun out of sports, i'm trying not to do that.

These parents don't spend enough time with their kids and when they get to be 17/18 and in jail, they look around like it's not their fault.

 

[shaqdeezl]

I have two boys and had the same exact problem you're having. With the oldest I taught him to beat the living fuck out of anyone that messed with him. You know what happened? More fights. Every fucking day it was a fight...and for stupid shit. "What happened?" "He tripped me while we were running laps." "So you punched him in the face?!"

That shit gets out of hand fast.

I then went to the extreme opposite with both of them. I know my opinion is biased but they are probably the two most respectful young men you'll ever meet.

Keep being patient, Spanky. Within just a few years social circles will develop and you know exactly where these bully fucks will end up.

Power perceived is power achieved. Keep your boy mentally tough and the rest will fall into place.

 

[thick]

why is wrestling a couple years away? Here they start around 4. My son didnt b/c we were moving. IN fact, he hasnt been wrestling much the last couple years due to a bad program at one school and than tae kwondo last winter. Not sure what he will do this winter

You know, it probably bothers me more than it does him. I'm looking forward to wrestling, it's a couple years away though. Right now he's in baseball and gymnastics, spring will be baseball and soccor. He's been a natural at baseball but a little clumsy when it comes to gymnastics. I was totally against the gymnastics thing but it's helped him a ton since he's tall for his age. I just want to keep him busy, but having fun. I know my old man could took alot of the fun out of sports, i'm trying not to do that.

These parents don't spend enough time with their kids and when they get to be 17/18 and in jail, they look around like it's not their fault.

 

[spanky]

why is wrestling a couple years away? Here they start around 4. My son didnt b/c we were moving. IN fact, he hasnt been wrestling much the last couple years due to a bad program at one school and than tae kwondo last winter. Not sure what he will do this winter

There were a couple gyms fairly near our old house, i've yet to find anything near the new one. There has to be something. He did Tae Kwondo at the beginning of last year and it was tough. He was a full year youger than the class but the same size. I knew it would be hard on him but the instructors assured me it would be perfect. I figured the discipline would be great. Well, they wouldn't make him pay attention and didn't want me on the mats. I told them numerous times to scold him but they wouldn't. So there I am sitting with the other parents and my kid is the one jumping around and trying to talk to the instructor about his hotwheels. LOL He would be better suited for it now. He's a natural at baseball so that's fun plus my big ass can get out there and coach.

 

[Grizzly]

No, Spanky, your kid is not a pussy because he has manners. He's a pussy because he's growing up like his old man.

Oh, and seriously, you're never too young to wrestle.

 

[spanky]

No, Spanky, your kid is not a pussy because he has manners. He's a pussy because he's growing up like his old man.

Oh, and seriously, you're never too young to wrestle.

That little bastard is spoiled rotten so I make it a point to make sure he's well behaved. And you know Brownie is crazier than a shit house rat so the kid is doomed....doomed I tell you. We're going fishing today, baseball tomorrow, roundy round races tomorrow night out by Shaq and maybe the lake on Sunday (we'll see about that).

 

[d-red]

i`m originally from the south. and my dad always said if someone hits me to hit them back. not to let anyone bully me.

times have changed since then,tho.

 

[terryd5150]

My advice, bro....

My boy came home last week with a big scratch on his hand. I asked how it happened and he said Jesse wanted a toy so he grabbed my boy's hand and scratched the shit out of it. This week he came home with a scratch very close to his eye and then last night he tells me Jesse punched him in the stomach.

The teachers aren't supposed to tell the parents which kids are responsible but told me. They said they've been "working on Jesse." I'm ready to slap this little shit because his parents are obviously not doing it. I told the director in a joking kinda way that this is going to be a huge problem for Jesse's dad if he doesn't take care of his son.

I think i'm mostly pissed because i'm probably a little too hard on my boy at times for things like hitting other kids or taking stuff that isn't his. Of course the parents (friends of ours) saying i'm too hard have kids that run the show and are major pains in the ass. Just feels like he's getting taken advantage of for being somewhat civilized. I don't want that to be a weakness but it's looking that way. Last night we went over the kick in the balls move.

We'll see what I have in store this afternoon. Little fucker!

If the unruly child you described continues to act out-of-line, here are some steps you can take that, I think, will remedy the situation:

Step 1: Make him read the jokes that Grizzly posted.
Step 2: Send Grizzly to see him (prefferably while wearing a clown suit).


Problem solved.

 

[spanky]

If the unruly child you described continues to act out-of-line, here are some steps you can take that, I think, will remedy the situation:

Step 1: Make him read the jokes that Grizzly posted.
Step 2: Send Grizzly to see him (prefferably while wearing a clown suit).


Problem solved.

Parenting and relationship advice from Grizz is a lot like wiping your ass with celophane. It sounds like a good idea at the time, but in the end you end up with much more of a mess.

 

[spanky]

Oh, and I asked if this kid had any issues with other kids. Apparently he does and his dad's answer was that "he just has to have things his way, he must have anger issues..." Imagine that, a kid that wants to do whatever the hell he wants.

 

[Preacher]

whats the world coming too hey spanks..... Kids that want it there way imagine that....

 

[spanky]

That's right Preach, you gotta go with what works. If you're going to tell me that you never spank your kids and they are well behaved, so be it. You tell me that you never spank your kids and they run rough shot over you and everyone else, you're an asshole. Sure, little Johnny may not have killed anyone or burned the house down but he's screwing up a good percentage of kid's lives, mine in particular. IMO

On the other hand, man I love coaching these kids. I thought it would be a little too chaotic but it's not at all. We have just about every dad at practice and the improvement is just amazing to watch.

 

[fighteveryone]

kid steps outta line... they get the wooden spoon. thats how i was brought up and thats how i'll bring my kid up. however i plan on not having children in this lifetime.

 

[Finisher]

I really like the idea of enrolling children in some form of Martial Arts program. I studied Aikido in my 20's for a few years and I miss the hell out of it. Definately going to expose my daughter when old enough......

Take the higher road. If it persists, I'd get the kid removed. Disruptive to their fellow students.