For the divorced guys....
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shaqdeezl
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There seems to be a lot of this going around lately. It's kind of odd. Tax refund season is usually the time of year for divorces.
I'm interested in hearing the replies.
I'm interested in hearing the replies.
spanky
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I hope I don't jinx myself by posting in this thread! 
I'd think it would be either,
1) You catch her fucking someone else or
2) You just know, kinda like when you asked her to marry you. I'd imagine there is no in between.
It may depend on what type of guy you are. I'm the type that if someone isn't interested in me, i'll move on and that person will be dead to me. Obviously i've never done this with a spouse so I may respond different. I've just never been the type to chase much.
The important thing is having a clear concious, knowing you've done everything to make it work. When that fails, theres not much to second guess. I'm sure Grizz will have some swell advice, I can't wait!
I'd think it would be either,
1) You catch her fucking someone else or
2) You just know, kinda like when you asked her to marry you. I'd imagine there is no in between.
It may depend on what type of guy you are. I'm the type that if someone isn't interested in me, i'll move on and that person will be dead to me. Obviously i've never done this with a spouse so I may respond different. I've just never been the type to chase much.
The important thing is having a clear concious, knowing you've done everything to make it work. When that fails, theres not much to second guess. I'm sure Grizz will have some swell advice, I can't wait!
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Vicious Cycle
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Honestly I knew my first marriage was over before it even began. I'm standing at the alter checking out some chick in the front row. I was young.
Before making a decision just remember that love is great at first just like in the movies. But what the movies don't show you is that we all have to settle into the day to day drudgery of life. What may seem fresh and exciting now falls into the same old routine with every person you are with.
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-VC-
Before making a decision just remember that love is great at first just like in the movies. But what the movies don't show you is that we all have to settle into the day to day drudgery of life. What may seem fresh and exciting now falls into the same old routine with every person you are with.
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-VC-
chip bronson
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1. loss of intimacy
2. you stop doing a lot of the things that you used together e.g going for walks that you loved to go on, hanging out with friends that you used to go out with on regular basis, having meaningful conversations about your day, your life and your future, etc...
3. she suddenly doesn't want to swallow your load...
4. she keeps telling you that she's not happy but she will not make any concerted effort to become happy
5. she starts to exercise and diet consistently and gets into good shape when in the past this was not really a big concern for her
6. she gives the go ahead to go find a fuck buddy when you complain about not being happy with the lack of action in the bedroom...
i could go on and on but i'm starting to get depressed...
2. you stop doing a lot of the things that you used together e.g going for walks that you loved to go on, hanging out with friends that you used to go out with on regular basis, having meaningful conversations about your day, your life and your future, etc...
3. she suddenly doesn't want to swallow your load...
4. she keeps telling you that she's not happy but she will not make any concerted effort to become happy
5. she starts to exercise and diet consistently and gets into good shape when in the past this was not really a big concern for her
6. she gives the go ahead to go find a fuck buddy when you complain about not being happy with the lack of action in the bedroom...
i could go on and on but i'm starting to get depressed...
s7v7n
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I'm the same way if someone doesn't seem interested anymore - I don't continue to talk to them - I move on and preten they are no more. That's that. Nothing really else to do....why stay in something that makes you all "grrrr"?I hope I don't jinx myself by posting in this thread!
I'd think it would be either,
1) You catch her fucking someone else or
2) You just know, kinda like when you asked her to marry you. I'd imagine there is no in between.
It may depend on what type of guy you are. I'm the type that if someone isn't interested in me, i'll move on and that person will be dead to me. Obviously i've never done this with a spouse so I may respond different. I've just never been the type to chase much.
The important thing is have a clear concious, knowing you've everything to make it work. When that fails, theres not much to second guess. I'm sure Grizz will have some swell advice, I can't wait!
Preacher
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I hope I don't jinx myself by posting in this thread!
I'd think it would be either,
1) You catch her fucking someone else Nope Nothing like that
It may depend on what type of guy you are. I'm the type that if someone isn't interested in me, i'll move on and that person will be dead to me. Obviously i've never done this with a spouse so I may respond different. I've just never been the type to chase much.I won't give up on my wife or my kids yet!
The important thing is having a clear concious, knowing you've done everything to make it work. When that fails, theres not much to second guess. This scares me cause I have done nothing and and she agrees its her.
The thing is I was emailing my wife pretending to be someone from her past that she use to sleep with, well most of the replies where good except one saying that an affair would be exciting but she's affraid to lose everything, and that she thinks that she may not be in love with me but still loves me and she said that she still likes this guy. Well I came clean after that message and she told me everything, she says she was caught up in the excitment of being hit on and likes the attention. She agreed that she was thinking of life alot and really felt that she may not be MADLY in love with me. Well 2 days later of me giving her some US time she says that she does truly love me. So I don't know, I do believe she loves me but hate the thought of her being so easily distracted...... Theres more but i'm tired.........Preacher....waht Are You Talking About????
Nothing Is Over! Just Start Being More Kinder And Nicer.
terryd5150
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I'm NOT one to be giving advice on this topic!
But, I failed to see "the signs" in my own relationship and I held on for dear life to the idea that my children and their mother could be together forever as a family.
She has started out "dissing" you in a nice way (and that's what she is doing brother). Trust me, IT IS going to get worse, and the more you show her you care and are willing to work to save things, the worse she is going to be to you.
My advice? GET OUT NOW. Let her live her life without having you in it at her beck and call. Only then will she truly know how much you are/were to her.
If she doesn't ever show concern, then you will know you had already lost her for good (if you ever really had her).
Tough situation, I know. Best of luck to you, brother.
But, I failed to see "the signs" in my own relationship and I held on for dear life to the idea that my children and their mother could be together forever as a family.
She has started out "dissing" you in a nice way (and that's what she is doing brother). Trust me, IT IS going to get worse, and the more you show her you care and are willing to work to save things, the worse she is going to be to you.
My advice? GET OUT NOW. Let her live her life without having you in it at her beck and call. Only then will she truly know how much you are/were to her.
If she doesn't ever show concern, then you will know you had already lost her for good (if you ever really had her).
Tough situation, I know. Best of luck to you, brother.
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chip bronson
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good call terry. i have to agree with you 100%. i'll be moving out into my own apartment next month and then it will be pretty much zero contact with her.
Preacher
Trusted Member
She is very apologetic and says she's really in love again with me and is really willing to work on herself. She feels that it has opened her eyes, and she doesn't want to leave..... so I said I guess time will Tell.......I'm NOT one to be gving advice on this topic!
But, I failed to see "the signs" in my own realtionship and I held on for dear life to the idea that my children and their mother could be together forever as a family.
She has started out "dissing" you in a nice way (and that's what she is doing brother). Trust me, IT IS going to get worse, and the more you show her you care and are willing to work to save things, the worse she is going to be to you.
My advice? GET OUT NOW. Let her live her life without having you in it at her beck and call. Only then will she truly know how much you are/were to her.
If she doesn't ever show concern, then you will know you had already lost her for good (if you ever really had her).
Tough situation, I know. Best of luck to you, brother.
billet5
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I have been with my wife for 12 years. Almost 2 years ago we split up and filed for divorce because I did not think I loved her. We worked things out now and our relationship is better than it ever was before. I definitely have been through the highs and the lows but honestly, it sounds like you two seem to have good communication. Hang in there and try something new in the marriage, date nights, flowers, etc...Also, you kind of set her up by trying to act like you were someone else on the email...
Grizzly
Man Whore Expert
Ya think? I know they're your kids and everything, so you probably think a lot of the shit they do is funny or interesting or something, but always remember that kids suck! The way you feel about the neighbors kids is actually the truth about ALL kids, even the ones that blind you with love.
I know they're your kids and everything, so you probably think a lot of the shit they do is funny or interesting or something, but always remember that kids suck! The way you feel about the neighbors kids is actually the truth about ALL kids, even the ones that blind you with love.
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shaqdeezl
Guest
Hell fire, Hell fire, this is Charlie Deuce Five. You need to check your coordinates of last fire mission. You are not even danger close, over.Ya think?
spanky
Trusted Member
Aw Griz, next year when you're laid up with twins, you'll be one of the blind and in the same boat. Your gym have a nursery? I highly reccomend that. You're going to make a swell dad, I just know it.Ya think?