Combine everything??

[wallyd]

Combine everything??

If you are serious about someone, living together, planning to marry them in a year to year and a half which you combine everything before the wedding? Everything being insurance, phones, bank accounts, etc, not credit cards though.

 

[spanky]

If you guys are in the same ballpark, pay wise, that may not be too bad. I have a good buddy that does well as an equipment tech and she waits tables. She does well when she works but always seems to have to quit because of "asshole managers."

On the other hand, you could be the one who makes out if she's loaded!

My wife and I didnt have shit when we met and combined immediately....

 

[wallyd]

We make about the same. If the economy picks up I will make more but for now we are pretty close.

 

[Realize]

I would say NO, but thats probably why I've never been married.

I was in a 7 year relationship and when things went south, I was able to walk away smoothly because everything was separate.

 

[wallyd]

This divorce I just went through I had everything seperate, I paid way more monthly, remodeled the entire house & did all work and bought all materials & I still got housed in divorce. Not to mention it was a fight all the time from that greedy bitch. Atleast I kept $ in the bank.

 

[Demigod]

Don't get married again....there,that solves that problem.

 

[spanky]

That may be the right answer DG! lol That said, and with all due respect, isn't it early for that Wally?

 

[Realize]

Don't get married again....there,that solves that problem.

^^^this

My current girl keeps telling me she wants to marry me.

I tell her that we dont need a piece of paper to profess our love.
She's even willing to sign a pre-nup...fuck that I dont even trust that.

 

[wallyd]

That may be the right answer DG! lol That said, and with all due respect, isn't it early for that Wally?

I'll agree it's moving right along. I have to say this is the most affectionate gal I've ever been with. It just seems so different. I'm appreciated, and not just for a paycheck because right now I'm a broke bastard after the ass raping I got from the ex and my attorney. She doesn't have to go party & be a social butterfly. I dont think she has ever had anyone truly appreciate her for who she is. I have met the ex husband & he is def a control freak. I admit I still pull back on the reins and and think about how things are going but there is never really a reason to back off. I will also say I am totally gun shy & afraid to get into another mess like before. Problem is, I don't see it being that way with this one. Plus I'm not a spring chicken, I took a lot of time with the first one, I don't have all that time to do that again.

 

[spanky]

That's great to hear. I'm coming up on 15yrs. We had a drunken blow-up a couple weeks ago. It's amazing how fast things can go to shit. lol We're good now but I really wonder how i'd be if I became single. I've always been one to overly trust in relationships, gambling everything until proven wrong and then i'm done.

Either way, you sound like you're doing well and have weathered the storm. Should make for some good holidays.